Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Are you a chicken or pig?
I recently had a blog about being present when in a situation. I want to be able to give people my full attention. I don't want to just be there, I want to be involved. I don't just want people to know my name; I want them to love me. Enjoy my company, my time, what I'm giving them. I no longer just want to be someone in a room with someone else. I want to pay attention to what I'm told, care about what is being said, and follow up in the end with something meaningful.
Honestly, its some severe behavioral modification going on. You know how difficult it is for a girl with ADHD to focus? To not have six things going on? To hear what she is told? You'd be surprised. I fail more times then not.
Some of the things I've done to change this is finishing a project before I address who ever is in my office. Leave my phone either on silent or in the car when I'm with friends/family, or just simply send a call to voice mail.
I took my grandmother out to eat this weekend and we just spent some time going around the town. She showed me where she lived with her parents as a kid, where she would play in the river, where she first met my grandfather. Where they lived when they were first married, and then where they lived when they had the first of the seven kids. She told me about the railroad tracks they would walk and the ice cream places they would stop. She said her dad always made sure she had spending money to go to the sock hops and the skating rink. I really listened and really heard her tell her story. I loved every second of it.
“We may have a habit within ourselves of looking for happiness elsewhere than in the here and the now. We may lack the capacity to realize that happiness is possible in the here and now, that we already have enough conditions to be happy right now.” –Thich Nhat Hanh
I want to be committed to each and every single person involved in my life. You're worth it. I want you to know it.
"The difference between 'involvement' and 'commitment' is like an eggs-and-ham breakfast: the chicken was 'involved' - the pig was 'committed'."
- unknown
xoxoxoxox
 |
| I have used this symbol for years-check out http://www.annencmhs.org/ for proof! |
Honestly, its some severe behavioral modification going on. You know how difficult it is for a girl with ADHD to focus? To not have six things going on? To hear what she is told? You'd be surprised. I fail more times then not.
Some of the things I've done to change this is finishing a project before I address who ever is in my office. Leave my phone either on silent or in the car when I'm with friends/family, or just simply send a call to voice mail.
I took my grandmother out to eat this weekend and we just spent some time going around the town. She showed me where she lived with her parents as a kid, where she would play in the river, where she first met my grandfather. Where they lived when they were first married, and then where they lived when they had the first of the seven kids. She told me about the railroad tracks they would walk and the ice cream places they would stop. She said her dad always made sure she had spending money to go to the sock hops and the skating rink. I really listened and really heard her tell her story. I loved every second of it.
“We may have a habit within ourselves of looking for happiness elsewhere than in the here and the now. We may lack the capacity to realize that happiness is possible in the here and now, that we already have enough conditions to be happy right now.” –Thich Nhat Hanh
I want to be committed to each and every single person involved in my life. You're worth it. I want you to know it.
"The difference between 'involvement' and 'commitment' is like an eggs-and-ham breakfast: the chicken was 'involved' - the pig was 'committed'."
- unknown
xoxoxoxox
1 comment:
I didn't know your Grandma was here in Brissie?
I like that "happiness" quote and it reminds me of another - most men grow happiness in the distance, but a wise man grows it where he stands. Or something like that.
I'm always amazed at the number of people with such low self-esteem that they'll happily settle for someone's "half attention."
-Christian
Post a Comment